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  1. I am known by many as a God fearing man, devout Catholic, active in the Church community volunteering for the handicapped. I was able to confuse her into believing in and trusting me. We’ve known each other for many years, she’s in her 50s and I’m in my 60s.
    I was able to confuse her because she opened herself up to me with her vulnerability.
    I was extremely psychology, emotionally, and mentally abusive towards her. I lied and manipulated. I never felt or shown any remorse, shame, guilt nor took any accountability for my actions. I have zero integrity. She had been through so much and built herself a better life and I ripped it apart. Knowingly what she had been through.
    I would spin or sling mud and then punish her with the silent treatment. She tried so very hard to explain what I was doing to her, and I fully understood, I just wanted to remain denying it all. When her therapist told her I confused her, and she told me about it, I laughed in her face. She told me after all she’s endured, she doesn’t feel she’ll fully recover from what I put her through. One of the last things I said to her is, if she wants to play the victim her whole life, to go for it. I know all that she’s been through. And she’s not only a survivor, but a thriver. And I dismantled her strength and courage. I accused her of being obsessed with a situation that I would constantly spin, over and over again and make her feel to blame, I would keep lying. Most times when she tried to have a reasonable conversation, I’d gaslight it into an argument and would punish her again with the silent treatment for her reaction.

    1. I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do with this comment. I considered just deleting it, but decided instead to publish it without the identifying information, because I am not convinced it was truly written by the person named as its author.

      If I take this message at face value, as a confession of-sorts from a hypocritical, narcissistic man who doesn’t sound the least bit sorry for what he has allegedly done to “her” — a wife? girlfriend? coworker? — then here is how I would answer. I would urge you to:

      If, however, this somewhat rambling “confession” was actually written by the alleged victim as a passive-aggressive way to drag the name and location of a husband/boyfriend/coworker through the mud in a forum where he has neither voice nor opportunity to defend himself, then my response would be different. I would urge you, the author, to:

      Either way, regardless who actually posted this comment, I am praying this morning for all involved in the situation. May God do for you what only He can do — soften hearts, give wisdom, convict sinners, grant repentance, strengthen faith, restore hope, and transform lives!

  2. This is a really excellent list and print out. I’m leading a class on the power of our words and God’s Word. This is super helpful. Thank you

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