Category Archives: Marriage

9 Ways to Defuse a Disagreement

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"Abandon a quarrel before it breaks out." | 9 Ways to Defuse a Disagreement (http://lovinglifeathome)

My father was one of the friendliest, most gregarious men I’ve ever met. He loved people — but he also loved a spirited debate. Mom always said Dad would argue with a fence post. My mother was decidedly not fond of fiery discussions. She has always detested conflict of any sort. Dad would often tease Mom, trying to get a… Read more »

A Plea for Perseverance

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Your Most Telling Declarations of Love Aren't Made on Valentine's | A Plea for Perseverance from Loving Life at Home

When I was in high school I dated a boy who would go all-out for Valentine’s Day: balloon bouquets, long-stemmed red roses, boxes of chocolates, candlelight dinners. Every day for the week, some grand new token of his affection would be delivered to my doorstep. But then, Valentine’s would be over, and that would be that. Two years older and… Read more »

Love and Respect – Subway Art Printables

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I’ve been pondering what to get my husband this year for Valentine’s Day, as it’s only a week away. In years past, I’ve written him poems, like this or this. And once I stitched him a silk-embroidered bed pillow, which has been broadcasting the same secret message for more than a decade now. But just as I was starting to… Read more »

Great Advice for Busy Wives

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Great Advice for Busy Wives | a book review and giveaway from Loving Life at Home

I’ve been seeing advertisements for Heidi St. John’s book, The Busy Homeschool Mom’s Guide to Romance, for years now. From the first time I spotted that adorable picture of Heidi on the cover, I knew it was a book I would enjoy. But being the busy homeschool mom that I am, I didn’t get around to ordering a copy until… Read more »

Turn Your Thinking Around

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It's Time to Turn Your Thinking Around : Rethinking What We Believe about Marriage | Loving Life at Home

Have you bought into society’s low view of marriage? It’s time to turn your thinking around. Read through the following statements from top to bottom, then bottom to top. Which better reflects what you believe? (Personally, I believe this is one instance that backward thinking makes the best sense). What Society Teaches about Marriage: (read top to bottom) Modern day… Read more »

Happy Thanksgiving {Book Giveaway}

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A free printable collection of coupons for a wife to present to her husband | from

Since my new book was released last week, I decided to make a printable coupon collection to go along with it. I thought it might be something wives might enjoy slipping into their husband’s Christmas stocking — and something their husbands would be happy to receive. My own husband got a sneak peek at the coupon book I was assembling… Read more »

Is Your Husband a Problem Solver?

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Are you married to a man who likes to fix things? Do you get perturbed when you look to your husband for sympathy, and he insists on offering answers, instead? It’s tempting, when you’re upset, to interpret this hasty rush to a solution as evidence that your husband doesn’t really understand the situation, doesn’t fully appreciate the distress it has… Read more »

Give Him a Gift More Precious than Gold

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"Your reputation is in the hands of others.... You can't control that. The only thing you can control is your character."

I am something of a legend at the hospital where my husband serves as Chief of Staff. Whenever he introduces me to anybody from work, I always hear the same thing: “It’s so nice to finally meet you, Mrs. Flanders. Your husband talks about you all the time. I feel like I’ve known you for years!” But the me they… Read more »

What Shall I Wear?

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Keeping Him Captivated |

When I first published 25 Ways to Communicate Respect over a year ago, I was astounded to see how many women took offense at my suggestion that a wife should dress in a way her husband finds attractive. In my mind, there were points on the list that were far more controversial than this one — I expected those might… Read more »

Fostering Friendship with your Husband

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"Life is better with your best friend. That's why I married mine." - unknown

The day I first met my husband, we spent three hours so totally absorbed in conversation that we were oblivious to all else. A casual observer might have assumed we were just talking, but Doug was actually and actively sweeping me off my feet at the time. “So… I heard you don’t date,” he said to me on our second… Read more »