Author Archives: Jennifer Flanders

The Choice is Yours

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Love is not a feeling. It's a choice.

Jane Austen once wrote, “Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance.” But that doesn’t ring quite true. Experience has proven time and again that chance has much less to do with happiness than do attitude and outlook. Austen might have more accurately written, “Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of choice.” Our success in marriage, as in… Read more »

Q&A: What If My Drive is Stronger than His?

What if my husband's sex drive is lower than mine? Q&A from Loving Life at Home....

QUESTION: “Your book [Love Your Husband/ Love Yourself] mainly deals with wives who are denying their husbands of sex. What if it’s the other way around and the husband has a lower drive than the wife?” ANSWER: The Bible teaches that the husband has a responsibility to the wife in this area, just as surely as the wife has a… Read more »

To the Mother whose Child is Leaving Home

Letter to the Mom whose Child is Leaving Home

You knew it was coming. From the first moment you held that tiny baby in your arms, you knew the day would dawn when you’d have to let her go. But it came much sooner than you expected, didn’t it? The child who yesterday was snuggling in your lap has almost overnight transformed into a wonderful young adult who is… Read more »

Q&A: I Feel Like I’m Living with Jekyll & Hyde

What to do when you find yourself married to a man with a Jekyll & Hyde personality...

We’ve received several questions through our family blog lately that deal with subjects better suited to this forum, so I’ve decided to publish my responses here, in case other readers are dealing with similar situations. Here’s the first: QUESTION: Hi, Jennifer. I would like to know how you would deal with a husband that is like Dr. Jekyll and Mr…. Read more »

Helping Siblings become Friends

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One of the first things people usually notice about our children is how well they get along. Sure, they have occasional squabbles, but that is the exception rather than the rule. For the most part, they really love and admire one another and enjoy being in each other’s company. They are friends. When people ask us how this came to… Read more »

A Prayer for the Sick

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Praying for the Sick - free printable prayer guide

A friend of mine recently asked me to pray for her nephew, who is presently fighting a recurrence of a malignant brain cancer known as medulloblastoma. His name is Gabe — if you’d like to send up a prayer for him, too, I know they’d be grateful — and he graduated from high school the day before this latest tumor… Read more »

Fathers Matter (Every Day of the Year)

Fathers Matter!

Last Sunday was Father’s Day — a day for celebrating the parent that goes largely unnoticed and under-appreciated the rest of the year. Dads are under-appreciated partly because our society is no longer conditioned to hold fathers in high esteem. Fathers have long been a favorite target of television sitcoms, where the vast majority of them are depicted as inept,… Read more »

Praying for Our Country

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Pray for America: Here's a free printable prayer guide to get you started!

Today is Flag Day, which commemorates the adoption of the flag of the United States by the Second Continental Congress in 1777. Whether you celebrate such occasions by sending up the Stars and Stripes or not, I hope you will make it your practice to send up a prayer for our country — and not just on national holidays. America… Read more »

7 Smart Reasons to Save Sex for Marriage

Earlier this week, I published an essay written by my daughter concerning her commitment to save sex for marriage. Choosing to walk a path that others have long since abandoned can make for a lonely journey, and she sometimes wonders whether her carefully preserved virginity will ever be valued or appreciated by anybody else. I’m confident it will. I am… Read more »

Virginity: Is It Really Worth Saving?

Is the idea of saving one's virginity for marriage too old-fashioned?

When you’re sweet-16-and-never-been-kissed, people write songs about it, but when that status hasn’t changed by your mid-twenties, people begin to look a little askance at you. That isn’t the way it should be — isn’t the way it’s been for thousands of years — but, unfortunately, that’s the culture our children are growing up in, where virginity is regarded by… Read more »