Author Archives: Jennifer Flanders

How to Find Happiness: 6 Keys to Lasting Love

For a happy, lasting marriage, focus on what you can give -- not on what you can get.

I’m hoping the stats have changed since last year’s embarrassing security breach, but February 15th has historically been the busiest, most profitable day of the year for the adultery-marketing website known as Ashley Madison. Why is that? Why would record numbers of married folks go looking for an affair the very next day after Valentine’s? I can answer that in… Read more »

Date Night: What if My Husband Won’t Plan It?

Date Night - What to do if your husband won't plan it...

I received this question from one of my readers several months ago. I replied privately at the time, but with Valentine’s Day just around the corner (and all the attendant expectations wives sometimes muster up this time of year), I thought it might be a good idea to share my thoughts on this subject here. Question: What do I do… Read more »

Sunrise, Sunset: A Celebration of Marriage

Some of you know that our second-oldest son got married last fall. We couldn’t be more delighted with the girl he chose to be his bride, but I must confess to shedding a few tears during the wedding ceremony at the thought of how very quickly he grew up. It brought to mind this wonderful old song from Fiddler on… Read more »

My Top 15 Posts for 2015

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My top 15 posts of 2015. Some good stuff here!

I intended to publish this post a week ago, but we’ve been migrating this site to a new server, and the process made it completely inaccessible for about four days. Sorry about that! The good news is, the task is done now. The bad news is, I was not able to migrate any of my WordPress subscribers. So if you… Read more »

Q&A: How Can I Be a Happier Person?

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If happiness eludes you, try practicing these six principles and watch your joy multiply...

I received the following message on my “Love Your Husband” Facebook page this week: I just came across your write up on how to ruin your marriage. I have to say that I am guilty on all counts. However I am not a happy woman and I don’t feel competent enough to be a career woman, a mother, and a… Read more »

Chores: A Fresh Perspective

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Chores as Training

When making moment-by-moment decisions throughout the day, author Kim Brenneman suggests that we ask ourselves the following two questions: “Is this activity glorifying God and serving Him?” “Are my first priorities taken care of?” She suggests that routinely thinking through these questions is a habit Christian women should deliberately foster, and I’m inclined to agree. To be honest, though, it’s… Read more »

Are You Saying Yes to Things that Really Matter?

Today marks the 60th anniversary of the release of the film version of OKLAHOMA by Rodgers and Hammerstein, and I’ve uploaded a new music video to YouTube in honor of the occasion. It’s a recording of “I Can’t Say No” (the way Ado Annie would have sung it were she a 2015 soccer mom instead of a 1907 pioneer girl)…. Read more »

7 Ways to Ruin Your Marriage

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7 Ways to Ruin Your Marriage

Earlier this week, I spotted a clever post on Money Saving Mom called 5 Ways to Ruin Your Day — Guaranteed. Of course, nobody sets out with that goal in mind, but as I read through her list, I realized that from time to time, I’ve been guilty of every single one of them (with the possible exception of #3)…. Read more »

The Choice is Yours

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Love is not a feeling. It's a choice.

Jane Austen once wrote, “Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance.” But that doesn’t ring quite true. Experience has proven time and again that chance has much less to do with happiness than do attitude and outlook. Austen might have more accurately written, “Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of choice.” Our success in marriage, as in… Read more »